It's Not Just Words

I talk a lot about positivity and choosing happy but let me make it clear that is just about using positive words. It’s a mindset change. What I have learned more than anything over the last three years is that words hold more weight than we sometimes think. Words can literally change how we feel and react. So if you are waking up everyday and using phrases such as “I don’t want to go to work” or “ today is going to suck” then yeah you bet your ass it’s going to suck you just manifested that. Words do matter and if you are looking to have a happier life, then it does truly matter how you speak to yourself and others. Here are my top three tips to start your mindset change: ️Say positive things to yourself ( in the mirror especially) ️Give others compliments or ask if they need help ️Make time each day to do something you enjoy Having a happier life is more than just saying “be positive”. You have to do the work to see the results, just like exercising your body, you need to exercise your brain.

Download this printable to help jumpstart your mindset change!

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Five Ways To Improve Mental Health

Our mental health has a huge factor on our everyday life. People are focusing on the importance of mental health, now more than ever. With the ever growing social media spaces, more people are inclined to talk about their issues with mental health and how they are coping. This is great news because we now know there are other people out there just like us, they are relatable.

There was a time where many of us would focus on that perfect instagram photo and although that is still a thing, I am finding more and more woman who are putting it all out there for us to see that not everything in our homes is in the perfect spot. We are in fact living in our houses, aren't we?

I have found five great ways for us to improve our mental health and I want to share them with you!

The first one is Connection. Having open communication with someone you can relate to is huge! It can be so refreshing to know that you are not alone when it comes to having crumbs on the floor that your dog hasn't yet helped you clean up or an empty roll of toilet paper on the holder still. We are not alone ladies! Find your tribe. We are out there!

The next one is being active. I know, I know this one can be hard. But honestly, even putting on a ten minute timer and compete with yourself about how much you can clean up in that amount of time, is still active moment! Get your blood pumping. It will get your body feeling better than just sinking in the coach after a long day.

One of the most important ones, in my opinion is being in the moment. Stop to take in that moment where your toddler is trying to put the triangle in the square hole, or when your daughter is begging your for a cell phone. Embrace your family and pets and remind yourself to take a deep breathe and embrace the moment you are in. The robot life is REAL. Remember that saying "Stop and smell the roses?" have some gratitude for what you do have in your life.

Educate yourself. We are never too old or young to learn something new. There is a wealth of information in this digital age. Search for something you are interested in. Even just going on a local news page can help you find new ways to use your sponges. I mean you ended up here and you are reading about your mental health right? Would this be a good time to mention I have a YouTube channel? 🤔😂

Finally, be generous. This can be your time, money, advice, a good listening ear or hug. Giving can mean so many things and honestly, it's actually pretty selfish too because you will feel so much better after helping someone. Even the littlest thing for you could mean a major mood change for someone else. Try it!

And if you're not already, please join us on the personal growth group! It is always nice to get to know new people in there!

Stay healthy girl!

How to Gain a New Habit

I am going to share with you how to gain a new habit into your life in four simple steps. (Notice how I said simple, NOT easy) because for some of us, life is hard.

Let's get into it. First off I made a video on this topic so if you're not into reading, check it out here!

Okay for the readers:

Step one: What is the new habit that you want to gain?

This is a big one because sometimes we pick things that we think we should do or think others want us to do and really that is just setting us up for failure. So start by choosing something you actually want to do! For me, I recently started to pick a time to relax everyday! (crazy I know. That is for a whole different blog!)

I have been really feeling burnt out and now getting to spend any time just snuggling up in the living room that I clean everyday yet I never get to be the one to enjoy it!

so I decided that everynight by 9pm, I will be in that living room watching tv, snuggling my pets and enjoying the nothingness that I crave!

The next step is asking yourself WHY. Why do you want this new habit? I just explained my reason why but that reason was so strong for me that I have been sticking to it and the reward of being able to do this has been so reinforced that it isnt taking much effort for me to answer that 9pm alarm to go relax!

Your why is SUPER important. If you don't know why you are doing something, it likely won't last long.

Step three, pair this new habit with an existing habit. This will help keep you accountable. A timer can be a great way to remind you to do the thing you desire. Make sure you are picking a time that is doable and not during carpool to pick up your kids! For me, I make sure my kids are in bed, chores are done and my day is complete by 9pm every night. I use to take this time to do more work but now I relax and it is glorious!

The final step,

HABIT TRACKING! This is the accountability part. Seeing a visual of the progress you are making can be a great rewarding way for you to recognize the change in your life! This is a proud moment! (and if you miss a day...who cares? you are human!) It can also help to get an accountability partner! I am also including a free printable tracker here (well a couple, plus a cleaning chart! haha) just print it out and get going!

Also, please join our personal growth group for extra support and accountability! We would love to see you there!